How to be more coach-like

Here are some tips for leaders on how to become more coach-like.

Michael Bungay Stanier, author of the best-selling coaching book of the century The Coaching Habit, says:

“If you’d like a better team, if you’d like to feel less stressed, if you’d like to be doing more work that matters, being more coach-like can help with that.”

Most leaders, unfortunately, are not coach-like.

Other reasons:

  • “I have to provide answers!”
  • “I am responsible!”
  • “I have a great solution for this!”
  • “I don’t have time to be coach-like!”

Fortunately, being coach-like doesn’t have to take loads of time and there are some simple things you can try immediately.

Who we are is more important than what we do.

Some ways into a coaching way of being are:

  • Be lazy (stop doing all the work, lean back)
  • Relate to the other person’s potential (they can solve this!)

Many people get stuck in asking closed or leading questions.

This is you steering and having an agenda. Instead, ask open, powerful, coaching questions like:

  • “What do you want to get out of this conversation?”
  • “What do you need in order to…?”
  • “What’s missing for you to…?”

Play back what you hear free from advice or solutions. This will help them clarify their thinking and choose a way forward.

Ultimately, the best way to be more coach-like is to practise. Every interaction can be a little more coach-like if you remember these three steps: choose your being, ask coaching questions, and listen.

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Lisa Gill

Founder of Reimaginaire, trainer and coach with Tuff Leadership Training, host of Leadermorphosis podcast.