How to be more coach-like

The main reason? They give advice too much and too often.

Other reasons:

  • “I have to provide answers!”
  • “I am responsible!”
  • “I have a great solution for this!”
  • “I don’t have time to be coach-like!”

Step 1: Choose your being

Who we are is more important than what we do.

  • Be lazy (stop doing all the work, lean back)
  • Relate to the other person’s potential (they can solve this!)

Step 2: Ask coaching questions

Many people get stuck in asking closed or leading questions.

  • “What do you want to get out of this conversation?”
  • “What do you need in order to…?”
  • “What’s missing for you to…?”

Step 3: Listen!

Play back what you hear free from advice or solutions. This will help them clarify their thinking and choose a way forward.



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Lisa Gill

Lisa Gill

Founder of Reimaginaire, trainer and coach with Tuff Leadership Training, host of Leadermorphosis podcast.